I can't decide! Is the maintance package worth the extra cost of the BMW???

I'd go with the Highlander, but that is a personal choice really, as far as the maintenance included package, the BMW would still be more expensive even if it wasn't

Both nice choices, but my personal choice based on nothing in particular just my overall feel of both vehicles is that I like the Highlander better. Even if it is just because I would feel like less of a snob, which I probably would if I drove a BMW. lol.
Anyways, if the X3 has BMW's I-drive then the choice is easy, get the Toyota, I have not heard of anyone in real life, on the internet, or in any car magazine that actually likes the i-drive system.